Its the wifes birthday today and so I thought that I would post up something.
We've been married now for the best part of ten years and known each other over ten years. We have two wonderful bairns, who are growing up way to fast, along with two cats, 5 fish and of course, the horse. All in all, I can't think of a way to improve my life at all, except maybe persuade the wife to eat pasta and rice, but that another story!
From the moment I met my wife, I knew it was different from previous relationships, why or how I couldn't have told you, still can't, but it was. During our time together we've had our highs and lows, as any couple might well know, and we don't agree on everything, like the military, but through it all we've always stuck together and supported each other and have, I believe, come out stronger the other side.
Life would not be quite the same without her and I can't imagine life without her or what life would have been like if I we had not struggled through some of the early years. I'm sure there will be many more arguments and disagreements over the next 50 or more years, but I have no doubt there will be many, many more highs and I look forward to every one of them!
So, I would like to say happy birthday to my wonderful wife, and I look forward to sharing many more with you!
Showing posts with label Wedding. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Wedding. Show all posts
Friday, 30 June 2017
Thursday, 8 September 2016
Wedding
Some of might have gathered from my last post that we were recently at the wedding of a friend, in fact its the reason we actually came on holiday. Why, well to start with its at the other end of the country, quite literally, so popping down for the day certianly wasnt an option, but i'll talk about that some other time, what i want to talk about is the wedding, or more speciffically what the wedding was for my wife and I.
Apart from being an obvious reminder of our own wedding, it was probably the first time we had really been to anything of such nature without the children in tow! We popped in to town for a few last minute bits before the wedding, which turned in to the wife getting her hair and make-up down, something she hasnt done in years. This did mean that we were slightly rushed getting ready at the holiday home, by rushed i mean she got back half an hour before we were supposed to be there, luckly with having had hair and make-up done and the venue being about a 2 minute walk up the road, it wasnt actually that much of an issue! The wedding itself was lovely, quite a small affair, with a fair few uniforms around (he's in the army) and the reception was great fun, and even involved a boat ride around the harbour, well, it was a lot quicker than the hour plus drive around the river it would have been otherwise.
The main thing for us was that this was the first time we had left the kids with my parents and been out, just the two of us. We've done a couple of swift half's down the local pub before, but we've usually put the kids to bed before we've headed out. This time we left them about 10am and didn't see them again until we got home around 1am. We were a little nervous as the last time we tried this with my parents, the little man was about 9 months and it didn't go well. This time however, it went really well. They went to the aquarium and then got ice cream and they both went to bed without much fuss, although I think there were lots of stories involved!
Our night out was also a success, although it was strange. Were so use to the bairns being around that it feels weird without them, I kept expecting one of them to come charging over at any moment, or have to go and prize them off the sweets in the corner! Even with out the kids I still didn't drink much, in my younger days I'd have got wasted, as shown by my best mate who is still a bachelor and got wasted! Its not that I couldn't but I just didn't, I defiantly can't drink like I use to, both in amount and speed but I just don't want to. The wife has never been a big drinker, so I dont think it makes much difference to her.
It was nice to be out together though, something I do miss, just the two of us being able to mess around and act like a couple of silly teenagers without having to watch the kids. It was a well deserved night out and one we plan to repeat, especially as we know the bairns will be fine without us.
Well, I think I've waffled enough and I'm not really sure I've actually made a point, at least not a sensible logical one anyway. Oh well, never mind, I'm sure someone out there will get what I'm trying to say!
Apart from being an obvious reminder of our own wedding, it was probably the first time we had really been to anything of such nature without the children in tow! We popped in to town for a few last minute bits before the wedding, which turned in to the wife getting her hair and make-up down, something she hasnt done in years. This did mean that we were slightly rushed getting ready at the holiday home, by rushed i mean she got back half an hour before we were supposed to be there, luckly with having had hair and make-up done and the venue being about a 2 minute walk up the road, it wasnt actually that much of an issue! The wedding itself was lovely, quite a small affair, with a fair few uniforms around (he's in the army) and the reception was great fun, and even involved a boat ride around the harbour, well, it was a lot quicker than the hour plus drive around the river it would have been otherwise.
The main thing for us was that this was the first time we had left the kids with my parents and been out, just the two of us. We've done a couple of swift half's down the local pub before, but we've usually put the kids to bed before we've headed out. This time we left them about 10am and didn't see them again until we got home around 1am. We were a little nervous as the last time we tried this with my parents, the little man was about 9 months and it didn't go well. This time however, it went really well. They went to the aquarium and then got ice cream and they both went to bed without much fuss, although I think there were lots of stories involved!
Our night out was also a success, although it was strange. Were so use to the bairns being around that it feels weird without them, I kept expecting one of them to come charging over at any moment, or have to go and prize them off the sweets in the corner! Even with out the kids I still didn't drink much, in my younger days I'd have got wasted, as shown by my best mate who is still a bachelor and got wasted! Its not that I couldn't but I just didn't, I defiantly can't drink like I use to, both in amount and speed but I just don't want to. The wife has never been a big drinker, so I dont think it makes much difference to her.
It was nice to be out together though, something I do miss, just the two of us being able to mess around and act like a couple of silly teenagers without having to watch the kids. It was a well deserved night out and one we plan to repeat, especially as we know the bairns will be fine without us.
Well, I think I've waffled enough and I'm not really sure I've actually made a point, at least not a sensible logical one anyway. Oh well, never mind, I'm sure someone out there will get what I'm trying to say!
Sunday, 21 August 2016
Being a stay at home dad
I was at a friends wedding the other day, a thoroughly enjoyable affair and far to long in the making, 9 years to be precise.
As with these types of occasions, you end up talking to lots of people from all sorts of backgrounds and places. Our table, for example, had my wife and I, two friends from Boston, USA, a couple from Wales and another from Australia. There was a mix of ages too, with one couple being grandparents, one being parents to older children who had left home and a couple who had young twins (our American friends), so quite a mix on our table.
Now, our friends knew what I did and think its good, they even have a Manny, aka a male nanny, that looks after their twins. But the other older couples were surprised about it. There was lots of talk about changing times and "back in our day" lines, but generally they were positive about it. I think they weren't so positive to the fact that my wife said that she didn't think things would work the other way around and that she wouldn't want to be a stay at home mum.
But why? I know history would tell us that its tube women that raise the children, but these days, in our times of sexual equality and all the nonsense thatgoes with it, why shouldn't a man raise children. What is it that my wife can do that I can't? Or vice versa? Personally I think personality counts for more, ability is always going to be important but if you don't have the tempetment and personality for it,it will never work.
My wife is great with the kids, better than I am in some respects, but she's a go gutter type. She's driven to succeed, always pushing herself and her boundaries, something I don't think the routine of children would satisfy. Me, I'm happy plodding, I like the routine, knowing that each Monday I'll be doing x, and Tuesday y. Every week is the same, except school holidays, and that suits me, everyday is different for the wife and that suits her.
So, how to change perceptions and ideas? I doubt we ever will, at least not in my life time, as few want to. Plus were going against generations of nature. Did you know that one of the highest levels of divorce in the UK is amongst families with stay at home fathers? (That's percentage wise amongst total families with stay at home fathers) And most are iniated by the wives? Yet when things are the other way around the percentages are no different from average?
Personally I don't care for stereo types and averages, it works for us and that's what matters.
As with these types of occasions, you end up talking to lots of people from all sorts of backgrounds and places. Our table, for example, had my wife and I, two friends from Boston, USA, a couple from Wales and another from Australia. There was a mix of ages too, with one couple being grandparents, one being parents to older children who had left home and a couple who had young twins (our American friends), so quite a mix on our table.
Now, our friends knew what I did and think its good, they even have a Manny, aka a male nanny, that looks after their twins. But the other older couples were surprised about it. There was lots of talk about changing times and "back in our day" lines, but generally they were positive about it. I think they weren't so positive to the fact that my wife said that she didn't think things would work the other way around and that she wouldn't want to be a stay at home mum.
But why? I know history would tell us that its tube women that raise the children, but these days, in our times of sexual equality and all the nonsense thatgoes with it, why shouldn't a man raise children. What is it that my wife can do that I can't? Or vice versa? Personally I think personality counts for more, ability is always going to be important but if you don't have the tempetment and personality for it,it will never work.
My wife is great with the kids, better than I am in some respects, but she's a go gutter type. She's driven to succeed, always pushing herself and her boundaries, something I don't think the routine of children would satisfy. Me, I'm happy plodding, I like the routine, knowing that each Monday I'll be doing x, and Tuesday y. Every week is the same, except school holidays, and that suits me, everyday is different for the wife and that suits her.
So, how to change perceptions and ideas? I doubt we ever will, at least not in my life time, as few want to. Plus were going against generations of nature. Did you know that one of the highest levels of divorce in the UK is amongst families with stay at home fathers? (That's percentage wise amongst total families with stay at home fathers) And most are iniated by the wives? Yet when things are the other way around the percentages are no different from average?
Personally I don't care for stereo types and averages, it works for us and that's what matters.
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